This post is part of a series entitled “Things I Would Tell My Younger Self…”
I have a bit of a confession to make. When I was young, my mom did everything for me. Everything. And by “young” I mean until I moved out at 20 years old. She would make my lunch, clean my room, do my laundry – literally everything she would ask me to do but upon showing no initiative to do it (and leaving my room a mess for weeks on end) she would end up doing it herself – and then I would scream at her for cleaning up. She messed up my perfect disorder.
I wish I learned how to take care of my life before I moved out.
I wish I was a bit more of an ‘adult’ living at home.
The main reason? It is quite difficult to put yourself into the habit of cleaning up once you do go out on your own – even now I find it difficult at times to keep cleaning routines. I do my best, but it’s taken me years of having to clean up after myself to even try to find a kind of balance in it.
You know, turning off the tv or the computer, and just taking a look at my room, seriously getting rid of stuff I don’t need, and keeping it clean for myself, and not just because my mom begged me to. There’s a certain pride you get out of keeping your room or your house clean, you don’t have to worry about people coming over and it being a mess, for one.
Because that’s the thing, when you are younger, you have one bedroom. You might have a family room you hang out in too. When you move out, you suddenly have a whole house to clean up, and it gets a little scary and you don’t even know where to start sometimes.
What would you tell your younger self?
Did your mom do everything for you? Or did she make you do it yourself?