Lately I’ve caught my reflection in a mirror or in a store window on the street and realized something – I don’t smile very much. I suppose there’s not too much wrong with that – I mean, I smile when I have to – when paying for groceries, when picking up my mail, at the Starbucks counter – I make the effort. I always smile at my baby, but babies are cute and often smiling at you – smiles are contagious I think.
Growing up, whenever I didn’t have a smile on my face, someone would undoubtedly ask me “What’s Wrong?” And I always thought, why can’t I just not smile without someone bugging me? But I was a joker, people always saw me smiling and laughing, so when I wasn’t, they just assumed I was having a bad day, even if I wasn’t.
Do you also notice that as you get older, there are less and less moments of fun and laughter and smiling? I used to have a laugh each and everyday at school, even in college. I still laugh, but those real hard laughs, the ones where your sides ache and tears pour out of your eyes, those laughs don’t come around as much. I’m lucky that my husband and I behave rather silly, and that we can find humour in the weirdest of places, and it usually stems from an immature humour – but at least we’re laughing!
But I have noticed something, that as I get older, if I’m not smiling, I look like a major bitch. Maybe it’s gravity. But if I have a smile on my face, I suddenly come alive and look happy and beautiful – but without a smile my face gets drawn and stern and annoyed looking. Not somebody you’d like to approach, let alone get to know. Smiling makes you more attractive. (Except for men, it’s the opposite – happy men are less attractive to women!) And did you know, that when you smile you actually become happier?
Unless your job depends on it, I bet you don’t smile that much either – unless you do, then let me know what’s your secret?
Just try smiling. Even for 5 minutes. Notice your slight changes.
When I smile … I sit up straighter. I show my teeth. My voice is softer. I want to put on some lip gloss. I don’t want to yell as much. I sound nicer on the phone.
And when I catch my reflection I look like a happy person, and I feel like one, too.
Do you need more reasons to smile?
How about you, do you have trouble smiling or does it come naturally?
How do you feel when you smile?